आज का संस्कारी बच्चा कल का बेहतर नागरिक ।
Sanskar is very necessary in a human being to serve the society। Sanksar is nothing but a set of manner and discipline which is understood and practiced consistently under all circumstances। It is essential that these Sanskars are built in a human being right from childhood and role of Parents is paramount in developing these Sanskars.
Manner means a polite way of behaving in a society and Discipline means to have control over someone so that he or she behaves properly.
But before we get into the this subject it is important to understand the psychology of child basically what they like and what they can do etc. Parents need to bear in mind that every plant cannot be a rose plant but every plant can become healthy and beautiful by putting proper manure and trimming. This is so because every plant has its own beauty. Same thing we can do with our kids also as every child is having their own talent , we just need to polish them properly to remove the irregular rough portions and make them beautiful. We need to give timely input to children in this direction as to what is good and what is bad.
For this we need to provide inputs right from birth as different level of manners has to be taught at different age. Let us understand these ages in following groups :-
1. Birth to 3 Years :- This is a very complex age. At this age child start learning and imitate things very fast.At this age we should not shout at child and we should talk very politely with child as they learn same manner.When child completes one year we should give picture books and blocks and verbally tell them about these pictures and slowly tell them about good habit eg close mouth and eat , after eating do brush , do not touch and play with electrical gadgets etc. Important thing is to be strict but polite and loving.
2. Age 4 to 7 Years :- This is the age where we have to teach how to talk , walk and eat food. How to take bath , how to set bag for school as per time table and something about daily Puja at home before going to school. The child must finish daily homework the previous night .Slowly we have to teach them about outside world and how to behave in society eg when we go to someone’s house we should not touch anything , when they offer any snacks then only we should take and say thanks and develop habit of saying sorry if something wrong happens. Respect and obey elders. Teach them about table manners. We should now teach them few prayers and how to do Puja. Give some details about main deities , Gods and Goddesses . We should also tell them religious stories at this stage. Expose children by getting CD’s of Ramayan , Ganesh ji etc. Teach children to always respect elders and never disrespect anyone in society irrespective of caste , creed or social status.
3. Age 8 to 12 Years :- At this age child can understand everything and its importance. Teach them basic housekeeping principles . Teach them how to keep their belongings neat and tidy. Teach them how to keep each and everything neatly in its proper place .Most important is to inculcate in them habit of self study. It is necessary to teach them the value of money. We should also teach them one or two Yogas or basic exercise to kip themselves fit and healthy.
4. Age 13 to 16 Years :- This age is critical period of childs development. Start of teens brings many changes in children . At this age we should behave with them like friends. Tell them about good and bad things in the society. Teach them virtues of patience and tolerance. Teach them what all is good for their future.Always take your children into confidence before doing any work which impacts them.Discuss about their study and other matters of their interest. Give them space for themselves.
At every stage it is important that children have a fulfilling daily routine . For daily routine it is important to make a time table which should have balance between study and play or extra curricular activity. For week ends keep some time for going outside to some movie or dinner or any park or picnic or any family get together.
During vacations it is important that we take them to some good places and put them to some hobby classes as per their interest.
Always appreciate the good things that they do. Always be positive and take responsibility of their performance at school and outside. Never pressurize children for studies particularly before exams. Marks are important but not the most important thing in a child what is important is overall development of child . They should be healthy , polite , well behaved , have great personality with proper knowledge and should be able to communicate easily. Never tease or irritate the child as it develops negative feelings and thoughts in them.
If the children have discipline and manners in them these are the right Sanskars which the future citizen of the country would have .